Lack of confidence and self-doubt are huge roadblocks in a child's learning experience. We all encourage our kids with phrases like, "You can do it!" and "I believe in you." But how can we help kids really believe it?
Teach them the power of positive thinking.
Practice saying, "I will" instead of "I can't"
The words we say to ourselves are very powerful. Imagine that you are standing on a balance beam, and say to yourself, "Don't fall off." What image comes to mind? Chances are you see yourself losing balance and falling off the beam.
Now, erase that image from your mind and start again. Imagine your feet standing solidly on the beam and this time say to yourself, "I will walk steadily all the way across." Did you picture yourself confidently getting to the end of the beam? The positive visions we instill in our own minds can affect our performance at any task.
The next time your child says, "I can't finish my homework," help change his or her thinking to, "I will finish, and I will do it well."
Get past the traps of, "I hope I can" and "I think I can."
Deep in our subconscious, when we say, "I hope I can" to ourselves, we are still letting negative reinforcement slow down our confidence. Replace these thoughts with, "I can do this!" or "I am doing this!" Coach kids to remind themselves that they are capable and will complete their homework, finish the book, write the story, and give their best effort.
Is consistent lack of confidence a sign of learning difficulties?
We all suffer from drops in confidence or fears of failure. It is normal for all children and adults to feel these fears from time to time throughout life. If you are concerned that your child might be struggling with learning difficulties give us a call the Literacy & Language Center (415) 242-1205 for a free consultation.